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  • lake posted an update in the group Group logo of Your ExperimentsYour Experiments 10 years, 8 months ago

    Word Game
    Instructions: You can give a new word (tag it with ’New Word:’) or respond to another’s word. Responses can be no longer than four words.
    For example: if the New Word: is ’First Date’ a reply might be something like ’opportunity to impress’, ’smile and be present’, or ’A dance of desires’

  • Alix James posted an update in the group Group logo of Your ExperimentsYour Experiments 10 years, 9 months ago

    This is a challenge that @lake inspired over in the Erotic Photos section (and that is an open wager between us right now) and I liked the overall idea so well, I am reposting it as an actual experiment for others. There is a photo I posted in erotic photos which has a suit wearing mans hand and fingers delicately (or not so delicately depending…[Read more]

    • You may have to keep reminding me that I am not eligible to volunteer for this!

      • Well…..
        I guess that you COULD volunteer!

        I might be able to figure out SOMETHING as to how to bring the “contest” into such a situation…

        Or we could just self assess the response that we were able to create in one another…

        Let’s see if we can get the volunteer, but if not, I would have to think long and hard about accommodating such an…[Read more]

    • I vote for lake volunteering and james demostrating long and hard.

  • Mallory posted an update in the group Group logo of Sex & MusicSex & Music 10 years, 9 months ago

    Achilles’ Desire
    Relationship’s push and pull, rage and jealousy tangled up with tenderness and desire.

    • Amen – everything about that!

      Going to download it right now, raises my adrenaline and makes my cunt tight just watching that, I want to rock together and feel my hips move, I get it!

  • lake posted an update in the group Group logo of Your ExperimentsYour Experiments 10 years, 9 months ago

    All this talk about magical moments… found myself reminiscing during my run, ended up writing this

    My Fifth Love –

    The first time I saw him, it was like looking through a magic window that didn’t exist to anyone else but us. We looked at each other laid bare, from the first; as if every want, need, struggle, raw emotion we’d ever had was…[Read more]

    • My memory fails me some but I think lake did a Second Love? I agree with Luis, I think this calls for One, Three, Four if I am correct. Now we want the whole timeline but catching up to Fifth would do for starters. PLEASE PRETTY PLEASE!

      • Yes, I have also posted ‘My Second Love’ here.

        You know I want to give you what you’d like, but I don’t even know how to approach this. These two just struck me in the context of what we were talking about. I am a much better conversationalist than writer. I have no where near the creative sophistication and sensual imagination that you…[Read more]

    • Yes, the 6th is now my platonic (mostly) best friend. The 7th is my husband. The 8th is M.

    • How about just a few words to answer:

      1. What caused First [Love] to end.
      2. More than anything else, what did you love about Third.
      3. How were you different as a lover with Fourth than with Fifth.
      4. Why didn’t love survive with friendship with Sixth.

      And I cannot begin to ask about 7th and 8th.

      • Good questions

        One and four are both about why love ended. With both of them, it didn’t. I love them both today as much as ever. The first I believe feels the same, but other than facebook we are not really in touch, it’s certainly not explicit. The fourth, I know does feel the same. Not everybody you love with all that you have, is meant…[Read more]

  • bwb1073 posted an update in the group Group logo of Your ExperimentsYour Experiments 10 years, 9 months ago

    So I need your help!! I want to do ” the experiment” with my Wife. I want to do it exactly like on the web site, set up anon email and stuff. The problem is that my wife is insecure about her body,and very conservative. I need ideas for experiments or games for her. Nothing to extreme, but pushing boundaries. I have a few ideas, but I need…[Read more]

    • Hi,

      I used to be an insecure wife, years ago, same as yours and, may I say, same as many more. Hubby helped me with lots of patience and his camera at hand. For a few years I have posed nude only for his eyes. Then I told him that his compliments are biased because, you know, he’s in love with me. After much consideration, I allowed him to…[Read more]

    • Agree with Barrister that we need more information to give you some suggestions. Give me some idea of what her daily routine might be. What makes her feel sexy?

      • OK she has lost a LOT of weight +125LB, so her saggy skin is a big issue to her. No pics, no video. I have ask her about her sexual fantasies several times over the years and all I got out of her is that she doesn’t have any. Reasently she told me she fantasized about being double penetrated vaginaly by me and a toy. This blew my mind! I’m…[Read more]

      • She does like when I push her against the wall and kiss her roughly. She likes to be massaged. When having sex she does like to be slammed hard. We do have a hot tub, she does love to have sex outside in that.

    • I do a lot of this now, thanks for the reminder because all of us guys don’t do this stuff enough. What I’m looking for is experiments that I can send her from( Mr X)

    • I do a lot of this now, thanks for the reminder because all of us guys don’t do this stuff enough. What I’m looking for is experiments that I can send her from( Mr X)

    • Based on what you have said, and agreeing that more needs to be learned to be truly helpful in you request, it seems that to start, much of what she may need revolves around things that she can do and experience on her own. Things that don’t “push” her so much as make her feel comfortable in going into the private safe secure headspace to wander…[Read more]

    • You said you set up an “anonymous email and stuff” already. Start there. Email her, tell her you saw her at ________ and you want her to know she is simply stunning. Sign it “John.” That is it. See what she does. I think she will reply. THEN the fun begins.

    • First there has to be a foundation, some context for the engagement. So the content of your emails should provide that. In my opinion information that gives her a sense of who you are, why you’ve become her admirer, what you desire, all work well… Also what excites you about the interaction.

      I agree with everyone here, it’s about catering it…[Read more]

  • lake posted an update in the group Group logo of Your ExperimentsYour Experiments 10 years, 10 months ago

    Kristye used to do a Christmas countdown that I loved and I have missed this year. I had the idea to do an after Christmas count up. Where people post little moments of sparkling chemistry, or pull, or flirtatiousness that caught you and the feeling that resulted has never left you.

    • These can be as short or as long as you like. Here are two that have come to mind for me.

      This was more than ten years ago. The whole thing happened in less then a couple of minutes, but I still remember every moment of it in the most visceral way. I was out with a group of friends. We had all been drinking. We were walking from one bar to…[Read more]

    • I once asked for and received the tshirt from someone I’ve gotten to know a little bit, but have not met. When I sunk my face into it, I plunged into that chemistry. When I put on the tshirt, I soared.

    • Very sexy… I think you must be her office crush.

    • Thank god for that one, you made it super thrilling for all of us!

    • I was at a holiday party. It was the end of a great night, everyone is clearing out. The owner of the company hosting the party walks up to me and takes my hand. He says, ‘I’m not one to throw a lot of parties, but if I was, I’d invite you to all of them’.

      • I left a holiday party fairly early. I was standing by the coat check room, waiting for my coat. A member of the other party at the restaurant came a little closer and said to me, “you must be with the other party. It sounds like it is so much more fun.” He startled me and we looked at each other for longer than appropriate stranger seconds.…[Read more]

    • I think you are definitely a member.

    • About 17 weeks ago or so, I had an encounter as mentioned in Lake’s post. I felt compelled to document my thoughts and feelings about the encounter but I’ve yet to express them to anyone. It was as if this was my own little secret that I happily kept to myself. I’ll spare all of the details as my thoughts just kept rambling on and on.

      I spotted…[Read more]

      • Why do you think you responded so strongly to him?

        • I’ve wondered that myself all of these weeks. The search for something new and exciting since my current situation has become mundane and lacking? I’ve googled meanings behind this and haven’t found any answers to satisfy my curiosity.

          • I pretty sure I have at least a minor addiction to this type of experience.

            • A good addiction to have. If just the look prompted me to write an 8 page essay… How many novels would be produced from a conversation, touch, taste, etc.

              I want more.

              • Lol, Oh yes, but not without its challenges… But, in my opinion do not let that stop you!

                I believe it is one of those things that you don’t have to go looking for, it something that is already always inside you. We just layer so much doubt, insecurity, mistrust, fear, dogma, etc over it that it becomes difficult to access or get to what I…[Read more]

              • Great to have you join the “conversation,” Lurkinglady! I think a lot of us here on SE, are drawn to eroticism of novelty and change, and to the adventure and excitement it stirs in us.

    • Extra points for having just meet the person on the plane… I’ve needed the double blanket traveling with someone I’m in a relationship with, but never with someone I’ve just met… Fantasized about it many times though. You have definitely been holding out on us Luis!

    • Here is one that is not really sexy (sorry), but definitely was an overwhelming feeling and rush of unexpected emotion that I will not forget.

      I was with my team about an hour before a large presentation, we were testing, setting up, etc. I misplaced one of my folders and had become very frustrated with my inability to find it and had given up…[Read more]

      • I’m keeping myself open to all possibilities that present themselves to me. I’ve been weighing my options lately and the relationship I’m in. We haven’t been happy for years and I don’t want to waste my youth in misery. I would be perfectly happy alone as it would be so freeing to the soul.

        That was very sweet of your office husband to have been…[Read more]

        • He is happily committed in a closed marriage, so we manage the chemistry appropriately… Though we do on occasion let it crackle a little 🙂

          I like sexual tension and I don’t always need it to go to sex or love to appreciate or be happy that it is there. I think it is a very motivating force. Even at work, I feel teams with sexual tension…[Read more]

    • What is the saying, ‘ In the end what we regret most is all the things we didn’t do’?

    • Having seen your picture… this doesn’t surprise me 🙂

      • I’ve been thinking more about this, and wanted to come back and make a distinction, that I am curious about what other’s thoughts about it will be. To Luis’ point, reckless choices that have consequences we are not willing to acceptdeal with… can absolutely lead to regrets. But there is also so much in between reckless and doing nothing, and…[Read more]

    • A while back, I had hired someone to provide expert opinion in a litigation. He was extremely well spoken, articulated his points with an incredible level of expertise and he conveyed his message with a great deal of passion. He remained calm, passionate, and factual under cross examination. We did not share any special “moments,” but I could…[Read more]

  • pGroup logo of Your Fantasiesosted an update in the group Your Fantasies 10 years, 10 months ago

    I’ve always been told not to approach a woman like a thing; I’ve been taught and expected to treat a woman as a fully-fledged human being complete with ambitions, emotions and frailties. And there is a beauty in the complexity of a female soul, a complexity which is a perpetual mystery in the male mind.

    But there are times where I relish the…[Read more]

    • Don’t approach me like a thing. I am a woman grown, I expected to be treated as a fully-fledged capable human being complete with ambitions, emotions and frailties. I know the beauty and complexity of my soul, and though it may be a mystery to the male mind at times, do not fear or shy away from it… else you’ll never learn to truly master…[Read more]

    • I love this story a lot. In many ways it parallels my own “upbringing” and the conflict that I have at times experienced when trying to “manage” my more primal wants and needs and urges (and of course the considerable guilt that goes with them). I also appreciate lakes response for the same reason, although I would add one other thought to…[Read more]

      • A. James- this moment I experienced had submissive thoughts running through my head that normally aren’t there. I had even questioned myself where this was all coming from. Would I have uprooted my life for this practical stranger? Probably not but don’t doubt for one second the thought didn’t cross my mind. My reaction was that overwhelming.

        • Ahh…those intense, bewildering, breathtaking, confusing, scary (or downright terrifying), outrageously illogical but exhilaratingly visceral, crazy moments where EVERYTHING that we thought we knew and understood and had worked so hard to figure out about ourselves and believed that we wanted above all else and with absolute clarity is completely…[Read more]

        • @lurkinglady – In my life there have been two times I had this immediate and overwhelming feeling (much as James has described… utterly compelling, irresistible, profound) and where it evolved into relationships. Both relationships did have a heavy BDSM dynamic, but here is the interesting part; these are the only times I have had that type of…[Read more]

  • pGroup logo of Your Fantasiesosted an update in the group Your Fantasies 10 years, 10 months ago

    This is the first of a series of fantasies. I came up with the concept while thinking of the 5 senses. It prompted me to challenge myself to write fantasies/stories for all of the senses. I hope you all enjoy, I’d particularly like feedback from any of the female readers – does it excite you, arouse you, make you a little wet?

    Here, for your…[Read more]

    • I really enjoyed that and can’t wait to read your take on the other senses. Don’t forget that touch should also include focus on the body’s energy centers like the nape of the neck, the small of the back. And I think the use and feel of different textures (fur, feathers, spikes) arouse the sense of touch.

    • I love the idea of using the five senses as the backdrop for this exploration. The things you described are all certainly romantic and sensual and would be lovely to have happen.

      Since you asked for feedback, the thing I would say is, I think you could have gotten a more emotional reaction from me, if there was more context.

  • lake posted an update in the group Group logo of Your FantasiesYour Fantasies 10 years, 11 months ago

    My Thanksgiving Break Fantasy Featuring Mallory

    Mallory in the park. On the edge of a metal seat. Sitting across from, and talking lightly with Master. There is an open seat for me, but I don’t take it. I step over the back of hers instead and sink down behind her straddling her back. My face in her hair, our bodies tight together……[Read more]

    • Now that I’ve recovered from this, I am going to try to articulate myself.

      Well damn it, lake, you had me blushing.
      You had me really horny.
      You had me lusting to the finish for you and also for your Master (I will assume I would like him since he makes you happy).

      I want to know in formulating the fantasy as you did, whether it effected you…[Read more]

    • This is actually, a funny story. I was headed to bed after a day of kids, cards, basketball, trash talking, overeating, and being lectured by my mom… and it crossed my mind that it would be virtually impossible for me to have a sexual thought tonight. I didn’t set it up or expect anything to come at all. All I remember thinking was ‘park’,…[Read more]

  • ellariasand posted an update in the group Group logo of Your FantasiesYour Fantasies 10 years, 11 months ago

    The Bicycle Experiment 2.0: Escalation

    As the result of the most recent race where I encountered my favorite dirty lad on two wheels followed by a series of saucy messages sent back and forth, I’ve had this scenario running through my mind.

    Context: I was pre-riding the course so I’d have some idea of what I was getting into (as this was one of…[Read more]

    • Mmmm makes me want to get chased in the woods!!

      Question, so I assume his reputation as a heartbreaker is because he has sex without converting these encounters into long term relationships, but do you know whether he actually misrepresented his intentions to the women who are mad at him for this? Being manipulative is very different than being a flirt.

      • I obtained some intel from one of our mutual male friends this weekend that apparently there are ladies in the bike scene who hate him who have actually NEVER slept with him.

        First two words: “Stay away.”

        Paraphrased: “It would be one thing if he was a straight-up womanizer. It’s just that for guys like [name redacted], they know only how to do…[Read more]

  • Alix James posted an update in the group Group logo of Your ExperimentsYour Experiments 10 years, 11 months ago

    @ Barrister has yet again inspired me to think more broadly than normal with one of his posts! In reading though his and many other fantasies and experiments on this site, I am reminded just how grounded we often are in our fantasies…about how we pass most of our interests and arousals and wants and desires through SOME filter which reflects…[Read more]

    • Okay so I’m freak, but do try to also remember that you love me when you read this. Plus it’s not totally my fault, James did ask for a fantasy that is ‘out there’.

      So slight preamble. I believe at our core we are all light, love, and energy… infinite capacity without bounds and connected to everything. That upon that we are layer upon laye…[Read more]

    • If you walk up to a woman that you’ve been making eye contact with in a bar, simply take her hand and walk to the dance floor, slither against each other and under each other’s clothes for an hour, then take her hand again, walk her this time to the bathroom where you fuck her, and all of that without ever saying more than two words to each…[Read more]

      • Uh, hell, yeah.

        • I probably should not feel proud of myself for that, but damn it, now I do 🙂

          • Yes, this is a perfect example of said “zipless fuck”. So now I am more in awe than ever of the daring, sexy, make-it-happen in her life ms. lake!!!

            -James

            • I can’t let you be too impressed, in the mid 90,s there was the most fortunate trend in NYC… and straight girls were flocking to the lesbian bars in droves in order to get their ‘girl on girl’ badges. I don’t think I slept with a female that actually was gay for almost a year. I still can’t look at the leather vest I used to wear in those…[Read more]

  • lake posted an update in the group Group logo of Your ExperimentsYour Experiments 10 years, 11 months ago

    Okay, I have another game for us 🙂
    Everybody and anybody is invited to play.

    List four things about yourself. Three should be true. One should be a lie. Others have to guess which is the lie 🙂

    • 1. The No List: humiliation, real pain
      2. ISTJ
      3. Total number of lovers: 6
      4. Commitment weary

      • I’m picking number 3 for Mallory. Even if I thought it was 4, I wouldn’t pick it just to keep the dream alive.

    • 1. I once screwed up a date with a supermodel, by going to the wrong meeting place.
      2. I’ve been shot with a BB gun more times than you have fingers.
      3. I was a straight A student and a virgin when I entered college.
      4. I minored in bible.
      5. My mother once beat me in an archery tournament, and I’m still mad about it writing this.
      6. I was a live…[Read more]

    • Okay, how long do we wait to reveal the real answers Mallory, I am very curious. Maybe we should only tell the real answers in private to the people who post so that there are some stakes…

      • Um, we have to do that. If by Friday, it’s just you and me, you and I can exchange a private message to reveal answers!!

        Come ON, PEOPLE!! Where are the gamers???

  • Alix James posted an update in the group Group logo of Your ExperimentsYour Experiments 10 years, 11 months ago

    This is an experiment, and it has to do with involving a third party in your sexual adventures. Mr. Barrister has been clearly expressed lately about what it would mean to him to see his wife become more expressed and open about her own sexuality and how willing and desirous he is of seeing her be more sexual with others. Mr X hasn’t been too…[Read more]

    • I have. Adding Lexi was based on that conversation, what we want and how we see it happening.

      • Fair enough…and it WAS quite revealing…but Adding Lexi was an experience wasn’t it? I wasn’t looking you had wasn’t it?

        I wasn’t looking for too much color, just some insight into the conversation…who brought it up…how the other reacted…whether the one who was told some interest also revealed their own interests and desires in…[Read more]

        • Adding another woman was discussed many, many years ago simply as a shared bucket list item. Over the years, we have known that this item would be something seriously considered if opportunity presents itself.
          Recently, there was an opportunity and Adding Lexi describes basically how we thought we would like it to happen. What was not discussed…[Read more]

    • This is perfect. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Again, the “conversation” isn’t necessarily about including others, it is every bit as much about learning about and understanding your partners attractions and arousals (or their past!). It is also about finding a way to share more of yourself…more of what makes you tick…what turns you…[Read more]

    • Over the course of decades, I’ve had this discussion with different people and with variant outcomes; successfully, unsuccessfully, and with mutually accepted compromises… and a total of five threesomes. I’ve also been on both sides of it (the one who was resistant and the one who was advocating for it). I think whether you are negotiating for…[Read more]

      • That is an extraordinarily account of private negotiations within an atypical marriage. Thank you for sharing it.

        • P.S. I think adding Lexi is emotionally, just about one of the hardest possible set ups for a threesome… bit of emotional masochism for the person in the role you gave yourself.

          I know you are competitive and demanding of yourself. I am very curious if you did that on purpose?

          • Yes, the role I gave myself is precisely how I want it. It is not because I am masochistic. I want “Lexi” to be someone with whom he has a real relationship, someone he cares about [to some degree], with whom he can even do things he cannot with me. The “threat” of real competition makes it much hotter for me. Dalliances are not that…[Read more]

    • “The chain of marriage is so heavy that it takes two to bear it; sometimes three.” ― Alexandre Dumas

      • Just read more of his quotes, he has many good ones. Here is another for this conversation.

        “True love always makes a man better, no matter what woman inspires it.”
        ― Alexandre Dumas

  • ellariasand posted an update in the group Group logo of Your FantasiesYour Fantasies 10 years, 11 months ago

    The Bicycle Experiment 2.0

    So, almost exactly a year since the original bicycle experiment, I’ve found a new object of lust (the subject of the conversation experiment did not return my feelings, as it were). My odds of ensnaring him are rather low, but he is rather flirtatious online.

    I’m getting ahead of myself.

    As a result of a few dri…[Read more]

  • lake posted an update in the group Group logo of Your ExperimentsYour Experiments 10 years, 11 months ago

    Cult of Personality

    I was horny this (Thursday) morning. Master has been a particularly entrancing devil and what he’s done to me I can not even begin to describe. It makes me bolder when I am like this. Always, awed by the power of our innate sexuality… our deepest forms of being. I take risks, I grab what I want, set backs and…[Read more]

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