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lake posted an update in the group
Your Experiments 10 years, 7 months agoQuestion for the guys: What’s the biggest mistake women make when courting?
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What do you consider “sloppy?”
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hmmmmm …. assume that the relationship which hasn’t yet deceloped will be exactly like the one they implicitly imagine; or, conversely, assume that the person they’re courting with has specific attitudes and desires about the developing relationship which they don’t share …
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Ah good one prance, this does SO get in the way of having the actual relationship that might otherwise be available.
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So in other words, you like LOTS of things standing at attention! š
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Don’t be fake. Be yourself.
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No being themselvesā¦ It sounds counterintuitive, because we DO live in a world which seems to expect people to present themselves as “favorably” as possible, but the truth is that while giving a favorable impression may land someone the partner they have always dreamed of, the insecurity and inability to actually become something that you are n…[Read more]
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Authenticity may indeed be the biggest turn on of all in the long run, if you ask me.
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lake posted an update in the group
Your Experiments 10 years, 7 months agoFast turn around this time, turns out this one wrote itself.
MY FIRST LOVE
He kissed me good night before he got into the car. I walked back into the Hardee’s thoughtful. It was four in the morning and of course, my girlfriends started in immediately on how gorgeous he was when I got back to the table. It had been a fun night, and I was…[Read more]
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Fantastic! Filled with all the raw and uncontainable excitement and enthusiasm which we all feel during our first prolonged and utterly revealed moments. Actually I am struck by how much BETTER than perfect your experience actually sounds than many imperfect partners in imperfect setting, with imperfect/incomplete/less than satisfying results…[Read more]
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Well James, knowing you the way that I do, I can’t exactly say that I am at all surprised by this revelation. Makes me think of buying stocks in some condom company.
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lake posted an update in the group
Your Experiments 10 years, 7 months agoWhat’s your favorite place to be touched when you still have all your clothes on?
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Chest
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Naked shoulder or collarbone…. Shivers
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Legs. What can I say? After the bicycle experiment(s), I’m definitely a leg girl. Whether it’s over denim, nylon or nothing at all, a brush of fingertips at the thigh or calves just does it for me.
I’m a particular fan of thigh-high pantyhose… and having assistance in removing it. The only stipulation is that he may not use his hands.
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lake posted an update in the group
Your Experiments 10 years, 7 months agoāFor a few moments, attune your mind to the idea of harmony and peaceful coexistence flowing among all peoples and nations. The source of this idea is deep within your heart. As you calmly breathe in and out, picture it radiating from you like a fine, colored vapor gradually covering the face of the earth.
See it enter the hearts of everyone, e…[Read more]-
I’m still seeing the “Post Update” button, sexy? You still not? Anyone else having the problem. In any case, meditating on the world and Mickey Mouse.
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I have the button.
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There’s only one solution as I see it, your just going to have to come over here @Him, once and for all, there really just seems to be more way around it.
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Yes, it seems that’s our only solution. Now why don’t you come over here with that computer and sit on my lap while we figure this thing out.
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I so like it when you are reasonable Sir, there seems to be a lot going on, and I have a few requests that I might sneak in… This could take some time.
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Inspired by lake, and by her panties.
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Okay, I am officially ‘warped’ the whole time I watched that I kept waiting for him to point the video at his lap, where we would see the back of his wife’s head bobbing steadily there. .. And this was such a favorite of mine as a kid… How far I have fallen.
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@luis – kiss
No Minnie, but if you’ll wear them I’ll find them! and if we’re doing that, I think I should get waxed in the shape of mouse ears? š
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Thanks, Luis. Yeah, that makes those options permanently visible. But is anyone else not seeing them when they start typing? How are you posting, @lake-on-my-lap?
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First I click my name. Then I type into the box that says, ‘what’s new lake?’ Then I go to click the post button, but alas, I only see the attachments and the permissions controls. Then my mind starts to wander, and I can feel the hardness of your thighs under me, it’s so very distracting, I start leaning in, wanting to feel the heat of your…[Read more]
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Oh man. Please do keep wiggling like that. And I’m afraid this situation may require the best and brightest over here at tech support. We may have to take you over to the factory. Until then, please keep wiggling.
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Oh yes much better idea, and it already know how you feel about oiling up the rest of me š
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Ah Luis, such a sweetheart – thank you!
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Your Experiments 10 years, 7 months agoSlightly overdue…
My Fourth LoveShe said she was floored by me from the first time she saw me. It was a staff meeting, she was new. I was leading the meeting… and apparently I was wired that day, which means I was much more Steve Balmier than Sheryl Sandberg. We quickly became friends, but it was a close group, and almost everyone there…[Read more]
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That is so beautiful, it brought tears to my eyes.
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Omg, thank you for feeling that with me, it is a bit of a journey to write these… I keep surprising myself by what bits I find that want to push themselves forward.
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Luis is absolutely correct…there really is something so incredibly fearless about the way that you live and love and are able to WRITE about them afterwards! Reading this it is hard to overlook the relentless determination and resilience and sincerity and intention that you bring to your day-to-day interactions. Based on some of the other…[Read more]
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Just because I know what else I want from lake…. so we now know about # 2, 4, 5. I wouldnt mind knowing more about #1, 3, 6. And I wont even mention #7 and #8 for now.
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I was thinking my #1, he was first first… Well most things!
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Thank you both for this. I had no intentional message with this, but if that is what comes across, i am thrilled!
I think I learned the lesson that I can āpass thruā my fear and or pain, and that there are incredible and transformational discoveries on the other side of it (even if getting there is hell at times) very early on, and then just kep…[Read more]
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lake posted an update in the group
Your Experiments 10 years, 7 months agoNew Game!!
Ponder Having the following ‘superpower’… Tell us what you think the pros and cons would be. š
You know those moment, when you see your lover from a different perspective. Maybe from across the room at a party you’ve arrived late to and they are already actively engaged in a group. You stand watching her, at some point she looks…[Read more]
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Pro
The practical me would love the time saved by this superpower.Con
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Pro: the energy and excitement you would pick up from some ‘knowings’
Cons: The energy and excitement you might lose from other ‘knowings’
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To be honest, I have some sneaking suspicious that this may be they type of thing that actually might exist in the future. To some degree, aren’t such a highly specific set of interests and/or “algorithms” exactly what is used to power virtually every on-line dating-site/social network/community (even this one)?
On the one hand, I can…[Read more]
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It is funny, I watched this movie yesterday.
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I agree with James about this site and its community. I think we do great in exchanging ideas and experiences, and in so doing, we make some wonderful connections. That makes this place very special (@him, just so you know).
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Makes me want to throw @him some kind of virtual party… Well, that’s what I’m settling for anyway, what it actually makes me want to do… Well, let’s just say it won’t work long distance.
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lake posted an update in the group
Your Experiments 10 years, 8 months agoIn what ways is pairs figure skating a metaphor for actual relationships?
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You have to have trust your partner’s got a hold on you, trust him/her not to let you fall, trust him/her to catch you if you do. And if you mean something to your partner, s/he will be the soft place you land when you fall.
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Love that one Mallory!
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Passion readily converts into presence.
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Paired skaters don’t get it work without daily practice or getting sloppy about they need to sync up to each other. A real relationship requires daily, routine hard work, and paying attention to each other and to all the details need to fit and move together.
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I love wedding day advice… This one is fabulous.
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Goes to show how just a tad bit of theatricality and emphasis, can turn some small thing into something that changes your whole life. I like him so much just from knowing this one thing about him!
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ellariasand posted an update in the group
Your Fantasies 10 years, 8 months agoI just want it to be spring again…
The Bicycle Experiment (coda): Cabin Fever
I generally hate this time of year. As a daughter of Spring (April birthday), Iām at my weakest. My city has been covered in snow for the better part of the past couple of months, so Iām not getting as many miles in. Cyclocross season has been over for a month or so…[Read more]
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Very sexy, rider. And here’s the magic in which I’ve always believed: if you can imagine the fantasy precisely enough, mind and body, then you’ll make it real.
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El, I donāt think thereās anything you can set your energy and imagination on and not turn it into one helluva an adventure… Keep on riding! And bring on the spring!
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Loved that, as a fellow cyclists I loved the details, damn those bib straps;)
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lost posted an update in the group
Pickup Lines 10 years, 8 months agoOne I came across and liked ‘Do you want to go halves in an orgasm?’
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Cute!
But if I go out with you, are you paying for dinner or I have to bring my wallet?
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It is cute, definitely wouldn’t want to stop at one if your splitting!
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lake posted an update in the group
Your Experiments 10 years, 8 months agoA Twist on the Valentine’s Day Experiment
Legend has it that although Abraham Lincoln ate sparsely, he was particularly fond of a white cake made by his wife, Mary Todd Lincoln. Historians say she often made this cake for the president while they were courting and he always commented, āMaryās white cake is the best I have ever eat…[Read more]
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Mallory posted an update in the group
Your Experiments 10 years, 8 months agoValentine Experiment
Saint Valentineās Day was originally (and still is) a Roman Catholic feast day, commemorating the life of a certain Valentinus, who was martyred in Rome some time in the 3rd Century A.D. The story is, while he was imprisoned for serving as a Christian priest, he healed the jailerās daughter from blindness and apparently, fel…[Read more]
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Good experiment; time to walk the walk… And I do depend on y’all to push me along this path of being ever more romantic (there is a lot of room to grow!)
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Thank you, Luis. I am very happy it brought you intense emotions.
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Ah but you did still share so much… I enjoy so much expressions of excitement and adoration and arousal, but also of course love. This made me feel so warm and happy.
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My life means much more.
Most important aspect of my life.
My encouragement and courage.
Kept me in the game, made it possible for me to hope, become better.
A dominant force in how I define myself.
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Alright, I wasn’t going to share, cause I’m shy about this (I don’t consider myself particularly poetic or romantic), but I’ve really enjoyed the way others have gone for it, and reading what’s been shared… and I’m nothing if not a joiner… so… here goes nothing.
I keep a small notebook in my purse, at times when I have a particularly…[Read more]
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First of all, how you can keep and fill the content this notebook, and do not consider yourself romantic is beyond me. It is incredibly romantic and more importantly, memorializes and cherishes those fleeting moments and those significant memories.
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You have a point š maybe it’s a perception of myself I need to dig under a bit. xox
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I stole the idea, #5 did it for me, that book is own of my most treasured possessions. We should all steal the idea.
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They may not be writing it down Luis, but i know you too well not to know there are women out there filling their book on you in their minds.
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Sorry I’m late (as usual), but how could I resist the challenge of expressing myself within limits (particularly when I’m prone to being verbose)? Context: long-distance writer friend I’ve had warm feelings for over the better part of a decade, but for whatever reason (long distance or either/both of us being in relationships with other people)…[Read more]
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How I love when all you can do is dance and your mind go crazy imagining what it would be like for more.
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Loved it Ellasaria! Reminded me of one of my long time favorites:
“In your light I learn how to love. In your beauty, how to make poems. You dance inside my chest where no-one sees you, but sometimes I do, and that sight becomes this art.ā
ā Rumi-
Rumi always says it much better than I ever could. š
I’ve admitted to this person that I would be glad to assist him with his involuntary celibacy problem, but I suppose it speaks to his character that he turned me down due to our history (and the fact that we’re too far apart for it to go anywhere).
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You are a Diva Ms EllariaSand… I have a hard time imagining there are not true fans gathered near you. Do you turn your gaze on these poor devoted souls? Let them a turn to court you as well? Is it always the huntress in you that chooses?
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Either said followers do not exist or I’m far too wrapped up in my own unrequited feelings to notice.
I prefer the hunt to being the hunted, as I was raised to believe that nothing worth having ever comes easily.
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Including you!
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lake posted an update in the group
Your Experiments 10 years, 8 months agoWord Game
Instructions: You can give a new word (tag it with āNew Word:ā) or respond to anotherās word. Responses can be no longer than four words.
For example: if the New Word: is āFirst Dateā a reply might be something like āopportunity to impressā, āsmile and be presentā, or āA dance of desiresā-
New Word: ‘Valentine’s Day’
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Seriously, once a year?
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lol
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Cursed holiday
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I have to agree with the hubby that it has become pure consumerism, although that is true for all other holidays these days. I reject it also. Romance and passion should be in the daily details. When they are not, we have an annual grand gesture of love offerings.
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Hmmm… Put that way, sounds more like a grand gesture of obligation than love. I have not figured it out yet, but like the idea that there is a happy medium out there some where, some cute personal tradition. Feeding him breakfast with your fingers in the open air or something.
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Agree! Love personal traditions.
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New Word: Possessiveness
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Absence of confidence.
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Gap in confidence in self or other?
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Both.
I wanted to say absence of confidence in self and other.
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Attachment susceptible to fear
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Delusional twist of reality
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And yet so many hold it.
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New word: Pain
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physical and emotional catalyst
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New Word: Care
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Mallory posted an update in the group
Your Experiments 10 years, 8 months agoWHAT DO WOMEN REALLY WANT FOR VALENTINE’S DAY?
“According to WebProNews report titled āValentineās Day: What Women Really Want,ā women want flowers, weekend getaways, jewelry, and favors. āIf there is one thing women love, itās watching their man clean. ”
A man after all women’s hearts said to me yesterday: ” my plans are aside from the chore…[Read more]
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lol… I assume he is beating them against the rocks with his shirt off, under a brilliant sky and dreamy music in the background… I have some ideas about what I’d like to do to him while he is hanging them on the line too.
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Yes, he takes his shirt off to wash also…
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I’ve actually got the laundry handled, but if he could fix my f’king laptop… well, NOW I’d have to tackle him and lick him all over.
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He’d do anything to be tackled.
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I definitely liking him more and more by the minute!
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I don’t know much, but is definitely know I do NOT want a cabbage.
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I have to go with lake on this one, even broccoli would be better than cabbage.
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I stand corrected! You had me very confused the cabbage and romance!
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Your list of flower choices was very interesting and on the mark for me. I collect orchids and one of my own paintings that is an altimeter favorite is a huge canvas with a single strelitzia… and I’m quite sure you were quite confident I would like your description of what you planned to do with the roses the moment you wrote it.
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I think you nailed that one luis
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I want the recipe!
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Mmmm… I want
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lake posted an update in the group
Your Experiments 10 years, 8 months agoREVOLUTION
I swear to God I want to start one. I need to start one. I can not settle, I can not push everything I want and need and desire aside. I require it be part of every day. I want to cry and be moved and reach so deep inside another that we both tremble with fear and power and bliss. Every day! What I know is, it can be done. It…[Read more]
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So come now tell… Did you? There is still time you know.
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Yes, I did. We pushed aside a week’s exhaustion. He gave me his time; he stayed. He came for me. I took a bath. I came for him.
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Thank You Mallory. This makes me very happy. I love to know as a species, we are out there living this life, not just bearing it, not just surviving it, but really living it, it makes all the difference. I know what a struggle it is, but we have to fight for this level of inclusion. Savor those nights. I found my moments… too short and…[Read more]
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Ohhhh when you run hard, trouble ensues!
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Indeed it does š
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