That is so beautiful, it brought tears to my eyes.

Luis is absolutely correct…there really is something so incredibly fearless about the way that you live and love and are able to WRITE about them afterwards! Reading this it is hard to overlook the relentless determination and resilience and sincerity and intention that you bring to your day-to-day interactions. Based on some of the other…[Read more]

Just because I know what else I want from lake…. so we now know about # 2, 4, 5. I wouldnt mind knowing more about #1, 3, 6. And I wont even mention #7 and #8 for now.

Thank you both for this. I had no intentional message with this, but if that is what comes across, i am thrilled!

I think I learned the lesson that I can ‘pass thru’ my fear and or pain, and that there are incredible and transformational discoveries on the other side of it (even if getting there is hell at times) very early on, and then just kep…[Read more]

Pro
The practical me would love the time saved by this superpower.

Con
Missing out on the anguish, not knowing, the fantasy, the peeling of the layers, the discovery.

Pro: the energy and excitement you would pick up from some ‘knowings’

Cons: The energy and excitement you might lose from other ‘knowings’

To be honest, I have some sneaking suspicious that this may be they type of thing that actually might exist in the future. To some degree, aren’t such a highly specific set of interests and/or “algorithms” exactly what is used to power virtually every on-line dating-site/social network/community (even this one)?

On the one hand, I can…[Read more]

You have to have trust your partner’s got a hold on you, trust him/her not to let you fall, trust him/her to catch you if you do. And if you mean something to your partner, s/he will be the soft place you land when you fall.

Love that one Mallory!

Passion readily converts into presence.

Paired skaters don’t get it work without daily practice or getting sloppy about they need to sync up to each other. A real relationship requires daily, routine hard work, and paying attention to each other and to all the details need to fit and move together.

I love wedding day advice… This one is fabulous.

Goes to show how just a tad bit of theatricality and emphasis, can turn some small thing into something that changes your whole life. I like him so much just from knowing this one thing about him!

Very sexy, rider. And here’s the magic in which I’ve always believed: if you can imagine the fantasy precisely enough, mind and body, then you’ll make it real.

El, I don’t think there’s anything you can set your energy and imagination on and not turn it into one helluva an adventure… Keep on riding! And bring on the spring!

Loved that, as a fellow cyclists I loved the details, damn those bib straps;)

Good experiment; time to walk the walk… And I do depend on y’all to push me along this path of being ever more romantic (there is a lot of room to grow!)

Thank you, Luis. I am very happy it brought you intense emotions.

Ah but you did still share so much… I enjoy so much expressions of excitement and adoration and arousal, but also of course love. This made me feel so warm and happy.

My life means much more.
Most important aspect of my life.
My encouragement and courage.
Kept me in the game, made it possible for me to hope, become better.
A dominant force in how I define myself.
Because of you, I have passion to fuel my will to keep going.

Alright, I wasn’t going to share, cause I’m shy about this (I don’t consider myself particularly poetic or romantic), but I’ve really enjoyed the way others have gone for it, and reading what’s been shared… and I’m nothing if not a joiner… so… here goes nothing.

I keep a small notebook in my purse, at times when I have a particularly…[Read more]

I stole the idea, #5 did it for me, that book is own of my most treasured possessions. We should all steal the idea.

They may not be writing it down Luis, but i know you too well not to know there are women out there filling their book on you in their minds.

Sorry I’m late (as usual), but how could I resist the challenge of expressing myself within limits (particularly when I’m prone to being verbose)? Context: long-distance writer friend I’ve had warm feelings for over the better part of a decade, but for whatever reason (long distance or either/both of us being in relationships with other people)…[Read more]

New Word: ‘Valentine’s Day’

Cursed holiday
(for 20 years I never had a boyfriend, then my first boyfriend ever broke up with me on Valentine’s Day. #2 from the story ‘my second love’ proposed to me on valentines day. And my husband considers it pure consumerism and rejects it on the whole.)

New Word: Possessiveness

New word: Pain

New Word: Care

lol… I assume he is beating them against the rocks with his shirt off, under a brilliant sky and dreamy music in the background… I have some ideas about what I’d like to do to him while he is hanging them on the line too.

I’ve actually got the laundry handled, but if he could fix my f’king laptop… well, NOW I’d have to tackle him and lick him all over.

I don’t know much, but is definitely know I do NOT want a cabbage.

I stand corrected! You had me very confused the cabbage and romance!

Your list of flower choices was very interesting and on the mark for me. I collect orchids and one of my own paintings that is an altimeter favorite is a huge canvas with a single strelitzia… and I’m quite sure you were quite confident I would like your description of what you planned to do with the roses the moment you wrote it.

I think you nailed that one luis

I want the recipe!

Mmmm… I want

So come now tell… Did you? There is still time you know.

Yes, I did. We pushed aside a week’s exhaustion. He gave me his time; he stayed. He came for me. I took a bath. I came for him.

Thank You Mallory. This makes me very happy. I love to know as a species, we are out there living this life, not just bearing it, not just surviving it, but really living it, it makes all the difference. I know what a struggle it is, but we have to fight for this level of inclusion. Savor those nights. I found my moments… too short and…[Read more]

New Word: Slut

New Word: Alive

New Word: Trust

New Word: Heartbreak

New Word: Pussy

New Word: Bite

New Word: Patience

New Word: Risk

Changes everything.

That is your answer or my four words, if it’s not your answer lie, because you’ll like what think it was did to me.

I don’t hole with minuses, we need to clear this slate

My greatest frustration… The ultimate finite restriction (yes I used more than four… I’ll take the punishment… Gladly :))

New word: Unstoppable

mmm…that would nice…very nice indeed. I AM looking forward to the day when I might get to indulge this long held desire (@lake). @Luis – I would like to relate a funny story about your post…when I got an e-mail notice saying that I had been “referenced” in your post, I could read the post, but had no context about what your comment was in res…[Read more]

Official Scorekeeper: Our Mortality

Most gripping foreplay.

ravished by expectation/imagination

swirling, crackling, humming energy

You may have to keep reminding me that I am not eligible to volunteer for this!

I vote for lake volunteering and james demostrating long and hard.

My memory fails me some but I think lake did a Second Love? I agree with Luis, I think this calls for One, Three, Four if I am correct. Now we want the whole timeline but catching up to Fifth would do for starters. PLEASE PRETTY PLEASE!

Yes, the 6th is now my platonic (mostly) best friend. The 7th is my husband. The 8th is M.

How about just a few words to answer:

1. What caused First [Love] to end.
2. More than anything else, what did you love about Third.
3. How were you different as a lover with Fourth than with Fifth.
4. Why didn’t love survive with friendship with Sixth.

And I cannot begin to ask about 7th and 8th.

Hi,

I used to be an insecure wife, years ago, same as yours and, may I say, same as many more. Hubby helped me with lots of patience and his camera at hand. For a few years I have posed nude only for his eyes. Then I told him that his compliments are biased because, you know, he’s in love with me. After much consideration, I allowed him to…[Read more]

Agree with Barrister that we need more information to give you some suggestions. Give me some idea of what her daily routine might be. What makes her feel sexy?

I do a lot of this now, thanks for the reminder because all of us guys don’t do this stuff enough. What I’m looking for is experiments that I can send her from( Mr X)

I do a lot of this now, thanks for the reminder because all of us guys don’t do this stuff enough. What I’m looking for is experiments that I can send her from( Mr X)

Based on what you have said, and agreeing that more needs to be learned to be truly helpful in you request, it seems that to start, much of what she may need revolves around things that she can do and experience on her own. Things that don’t “push” her so much as make her feel comfortable in going into the private safe secure headspace to wander…[Read more]

You said you set up an “anonymous email and stuff” already. Start there. Email her, tell her you saw her at ________ and you want her to know she is simply stunning. Sign it “John.” That is it. See what she does. I think she will reply. THEN the fun begins.

First there has to be a foundation, some context for the engagement. So the content of your emails should provide that. In my opinion information that gives her a sense of who you are, why you’ve become her admirer, what you desire, all work well… Also what excites you about the interaction.

I agree with everyone here, it’s about catering it…[Read more]

These can be as short or as long as you like. Here are two that have come to mind for me.

This was more than ten years ago. The whole thing happened in less then a couple of minutes, but I still remember every moment of it in the most visceral way. I was out with a group of friends. We had all been drinking. We were walking from one bar to…[Read more]

I once asked for and received the tshirt from someone I’ve gotten to know a little bit, but have not met. When I sunk my face into it, I plunged into that chemistry. When I put on the tshirt, I soared.

Very sexy… I think you must be her office crush.

Thank god for that one, you made it super thrilling for all of us!

I was at a holiday party. It was the end of a great night, everyone is clearing out. The owner of the company hosting the party walks up to me and takes my hand. He says, ‘I’m not one to throw a lot of parties, but if I was, I’d invite you to all of them’.

I think you are definitely a member.

About 17 weeks ago or so, I had an encounter as mentioned in Lake’s post. I felt compelled to document my thoughts and feelings about the encounter but I’ve yet to express them to anyone. It was as if this was my own little secret that I happily kept to myself. I’ll spare all of the details as my thoughts just kept rambling on and on.

I spotted…[Read more]

Extra points for having just meet the person on the plane… I’ve needed the double blanket traveling with someone I’m in a relationship with, but never with someone I’ve just met… Fantasized about it many times though. You have definitely been holding out on us Luis!

Here is one that is not really sexy (sorry), but definitely was an overwhelming feeling and rush of unexpected emotion that I will not forget.

I was with my team about an hour before a large presentation, we were testing, setting up, etc. I misplaced one of my folders and had become very frustrated with my inability to find it and had given up…[Read more]

What is the saying, ‘ In the end what we regret most is all the things we didn’t do’?

Having seen your picture… this doesn’t surprise me 🙂

A while back, I had hired someone to provide expert opinion in a litigation. He was extremely well spoken, articulated his points with an incredible level of expertise and he conveyed his message with a great deal of passion. He remained calm, passionate, and factual under cross examination. We did not share any special “moments,” but I could…[Read more]

Don’t approach me like a thing. I am a woman grown, I expected to be treated as a fully-fledged capable human being complete with ambitions, emotions and frailties. I know the beauty and complexity of my soul, and though it may be a mystery to the male mind at times, do not fear or shy away from it… else you’ll never learn to truly master…[Read more]

I love this story a lot. In many ways it parallels my own “upbringing” and the conflict that I have at times experienced when trying to “manage” my more primal wants and needs and urges (and of course the considerable guilt that goes with them). I also appreciate lakes response for the same reason, although I would add one other thought to…[Read more]

I really enjoyed that and can’t wait to read your take on the other senses. Don’t forget that touch should also include focus on the body’s energy centers like the nape of the neck, the small of the back. And I think the use and feel of different textures (fur, feathers, spikes) arouse the sense of touch.

I love the idea of using the five senses as the backdrop for this exploration. The things you described are all certainly romantic and sensual and would be lovely to have happen.

Since you asked for feedback, the thing I would say is, I think you could have gotten a more emotional reaction from me, if there was more context.

Now that I’ve recovered from this, I am going to try to articulate myself.

Well damn it, lake, you had me blushing.
You had me really horny.
You had me lusting to the finish for you and also for your Master (I will assume I would like him since he makes you happy).

I want to know in formulating the fantasy as you did, whether it effected you…[Read more]

This is actually, a funny story. I was headed to bed after a day of kids, cards, basketball, trash talking, overeating, and being lectured by my mom… and it crossed my mind that it would be virtually impossible for me to have a sexual thought tonight. I didn’t set it up or expect anything to come at all. All I remember thinking was ‘park’,…[Read more]