I can only give you my perspective, Andrew. “Sucking a man’s cock” for me is a more complex process than just the mere act of sucking. It is a series of sensual pleasures I want to give, a series of mind blowing intensities I want him to experience. On the receiving end, I savor the texture, the taste. I feel the pulsing, the urgency. Finally, tasting every burst of caviar on my tongue before each torrent rushing down my throat, to flood my soul and fill my heart.

Just out of curiosity Mr. Flemming…there is a slight but potentially relevant difference in the way you described what it is that you find appealing and what Mallory expressed…more of an offering…giving more than taking.

Which do you find more arousing…the physical sensations (sight, texture, smell, taste) and mental and emotional aspects (gay or not, you do have a cock so you know exactly what meaning you have always placed to those who have performed such an act on you!), or is the opposite more arousing…imagining all of the things that the man who you are sucking off is taking from your efforts, the knowledge that you are taking care of him in a way that you KNOW is how a man should be taken care of?

It is a matter of perspective…and I am ready to concede that my distinction may not really matter…but, since I can not speak first hand to such an experience (at least not yet!)…as I was thinking thought this question…I would have to admit that I was being a little more selfish about what I was getting from it than I imagine my partners have felt (or at least the good ones) about giving me a blow-job.

Maybe that makes perfect sense…maybe women have those same feelings the first couple of times that they give a blow-job…maybe there is something particularly contemplative and self focused and inward focused while giving the first couple of blow-jobs…only after trial and error and practice and experience does one shift more towards the finer details of what the man you are sucking off is experiencing and how that feeds your desire to have him “fill you”… with part of HIM.

Ladies…(or gentlemen)…I think that some clarification and perspective may be needed on this one!

-James

@James, i think the two things your talking about are both real aspects, but not separate, maybe not even distinct. At a certain point giving and taking converge and are not distinguishable. I’d compare it to having a raging hard on while you eat pussy. Thrilling in what your sensing and all of both of your reactions. In a way, i find it challenging to think about one without the other. As I think about it, and as someone who has done both, I’d say details and mechanics (enter\be entered etc.) aside, a lot of this is the same regardless of the sex… like for example the rule that the sloppier it gets the better.

@Andrew, there is a reason men evolved in such a way that they aren’t physically able to suck their own dicks… because if they could, it would be a completely different world.