@ Barrister has yet again inspired me to think more broadly than normal with one of his posts! In reading though his and many other fantasies and experiments on this site, I am reminded just how grounded we often are in our fantasies…about how we pass most of our interests and arousals and wants and desires through SOME filter which reflects our past experience and our current relationship situation and dynamics. But there are those parts of us which we do think of that trip purely into fantasy land…which we think about and which arouse us wildly us even if there is no contextual relation to who we are or what may be achievable. Almost as if somehow we refuse or resist completely unrealistic fantasies as being worthwhile. (especially as we get older and come to accept who we really are more). So my experiment is to challenge everyone to think about and share some sexual fantasy that they have had that isn’t necessarily possible or worth ever making happen. By expressing and exploring these underlying thoughts and feelings we may learn more about who we are…understand ourselves better and when we understand our sexuality and our desires, we can begin to find ways to explore and use them in our everyday lives…incorporate them into specific, actionable parts of our sexual activities and draw from the intense pleasure and energy which they create inside of us!!!

I have had many of these pure fantasies over the years…and yes, many of them seem to recur over and over again, even if they are infrequent or only crop up once every couple of years, but I will share one of mine and hopefully many of you will find it sufficiently out of the box and inspiring to spark your own pure fantasy thoughts and ideas…

I have always wanted to have a zipless fuck. An isolated moment in time where two people who are stressed out and really need a sexual release find themselves in the same place and at the same time and with another person whom, for whatever reason, are given the opportunity to act on the raw chemistry and attraction that is so strong, and their immediate wants and needs a so great, that they just look each other in the eye and know what the other is thinking and feeling, and without saying a word…without knowing anything at all about the other person…they grab hold of one another…start kissing, start pawing and grabbing and fumbling over one another to touch and feel and grope and start to unbutton and unbuckle and unzip and open their clothing just enough to give them access to what they want before fucking each others brains out like two animals in heat.

Mallory indulged us all a while back with a version of this theme (getting stuck in a dark elevator), but there are others…like locked in a conference room with a female banker, attorney, assistant in the middle of the day while working on a deal that has gone on for weeks – ideally she works for the other side in the negotiations!)…or meeting in line to get coffee…hell, one time I was walking down the street and this quirkily attractive but certainly not gorgeous older woman looked right at me and gave me the most incredible knowing look and this quirky but melting smile. I returned the look and smile with an equal ferocity…which totally caught me by surprise. It was heart-stopping and wildly arousing and I absolutely knew that I would fuck her if I could. It was one of the most unusual, out of character (yes, i am serious that i really don’t think like this every minute of the day!), surreal moments of my life. To this day, I wish that I had not been such a New Yorker with my emotionally impenetrable shell when walking down the street. In any other mindset, I absolutely would have been stopped dead in my tracks and at least said something to her…and if that outrageous chemistry and crackling energy was even half as real as it felt, I am certain that, I would have had to think long and hard about whether this would ever be something that is more than pure fantasy!!!