Pro
The practical me would love the time saved by this superpower.

Con
Missing out on the anguish, not knowing, the fantasy, the peeling of the layers, the discovery.

Pro: the energy and excitement you would pick up from some ‘knowings’

Cons: The energy and excitement you might lose from other ‘knowings’

To be honest, I have some sneaking suspicious that this may be they type of thing that actually might exist in the future. To some degree, aren’t such a highly specific set of interests and/or “algorithms” exactly what is used to power virtually every on-line dating-site/social network/community (even this one)?

On the one hand, I can absolutely see how the “journey” – all the starts and stops and ups and downs and victories and defeats were essential components of me discovering myself and “knowing” exactly what it is that I want and need (and probably as importantly, an essential element which allows me to APPRECIATE and SAVOR all of where I am and what I have accomplished) has absolutely been a critical part of my “puzzle”.

On the other hand, what IF there were these people out there who just are our ideal (note I did not use the word perfect!) sexual matches? What if there WERE a way to cut out all the time and effort and uncertainty of searching for them (and come on, there IS a lot of wasted time and effort no matter how many lessons we might learn along the way!).

And I like lakes reference to what we might “lose” from all the time and energy spent in alternative activities (presumably while we are just killing time until we find our mate:)!) I get those concerns, and while I may not be fully formed, I am pretty close. I DO think I have the structure and specifics and while there is still lots of decorating that can be done, I am more than a blank canvas, and I definitely could see myself at this point skipping past ALL of the heartache and trouble and time and energy and wasted effort and “experiments” to discover such a person! At this point, I NEED those people to take my own experience to the next level…so that I can learn and grow and refine what I am already quite certain IS who I am, and who I am meant to become (but can’t fully realize until I am supported and nurtured and I become experienced in all the ways of realizing upon that potential). I would be for it – especially because I believe that if you were to find a partner that REALLY was that symbiotic and held that level of connection between you both, that there really may be nothing else that could possibly matter enough in either of your lives to want to resist it anyway…what if you freely and willingly would do anything and everything that were weren’t capable of saying no to in the “superpower” example? If comic books are allegories, maybe the truth is that we really DO want to find those types of connections?!?!?

BTW, I do actually think that this site IS unique in one regard…there have actually been more people that I have come across and connected with in exactly the ways that I want and need on this site than on any other I can think of. And that is a serious statement given the relative size of this community over the 2 years or so I have been a part of it (well…and the absolute size and lifetimes of effort I have expended on many of the largest and most popular sites. I do think that makes this realm a bit of a unique and in its own way incredible “success”.

I have never had the opportunity to actually meet someone through this site, but who knows…maybe one day we might discover that this site is incredibly effective at making the connections which most of us have found so hard to do on our own! Maybe some of us may discover how true that really is (if anyone does…they sure as hell better report back to the rest of us ASAP!!!)

-James