There is a lot to be said for your comment here mrs. lake. One of the things that I have been most shocked to learn in my explorations of D/s is the sense that comes over me of how SERIOUS the stakes are when people relate without boundaries. Role play doesn’t count…when you are with someone with whom there is this intense, palpable, almost uncontrollable chemistry with, all of the sudden the actions which one might take – lean in for a kiss…lift their shirt…unzip their skirt…and each and every little step…every progression further along the chain to whatever intimate act you might imagine…takes on a very real and very intense and very serious – almost monumentous – feeling to it. I believe it happens with both parties the Dominant and the Submissive…(@lake care to chime in)…but the act of truly taking or giving up control…of real submission or domination…can be scary…downright TERRIFYING!!!

I read your post and your subsequent response and instantly understood what feeling you must be talking about.

Oh…Mrs. Mallory…there are situations where we SHOULD be scared…that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t also push…but the human desire of self preservation is strong…and when the stakes are real and high…sometimes we should all proceed with caution!